Content Notice: Before reading further, please note this article discusses suicide, self-harm, and resources that can help us recognize and support those in crisis.
In our recent “Change Makers” sermon series, we discussed being aware of signs, providing support, and offering resources for those in crisis as a very important way we can “be the light” to others. To that end, I wanted to take just a few moments to share some information and resources that may be helpful to you.
Know The Signs
It can be difficult to know if someone is struggling, as the signs can be subtle or varied. It is important to know that not everyone who is experiencing a crisis will show these signs, but these are some common indicators:
- Adults: Adults may talk openly about wanting to die (or “not being here”). They may express hopelessness or concerns about being a burden to others. Behavioral changes could involve withdrawing from others, giving away possessions, or engaging in increasingly risky behaviors. They may display mood swings or increase use of substances. A sudden, unexpected calmness and resolve after a period of depression can also be an indicator.
- Children & Youth: For younger people, suicidal thoughts can be impulsive and may be linked to feelings of sadness, confusion, anger, or stress from school life, family, friends, or self. Common signs of emotional distress may include changes in sleeping or eating habits, change in performance or interest in schoolwork or hobbies, and frequency complaints about physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches. They may talk, write, or draw about death or withdraw from friends.
What To Do
If you are concerned that someone you know may be considering suicide, do not hesitate to act. Here are five simple steps you can follow adapted from the #BeThe1To campaign:
- Ask: Directly ask the question, “Are you thinking about suicide?” This may feel uncomfortable, but it communicates you are a safe person to talk to. Do not promise to keep suicidal thoughts a secret.
- Be There: Be physically and/or psychologically present with someone. Listen without judgment. Be certain to only commit to what is realistic (things you can actually do).
- Help Keep Them Safe: Ensure there is no imminent threat of harm to self or others. If so, contact support resources immediately (even if the person doesn’t want you to).
- Help The Connect: If there is no imminent threat, provide resources such as information about mental health counseling or crisis resources.
- Follow Up: Stay in touch after. A simple check-in a few days later can make a huge difference.
Resources
- Immediate Crisis Resources (bookmark or save these!)
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: 24/7 support. Call or text 988. Chat at 988lifeline.org.
- For LGBTQ+ Young People: 24/7 support. Call 1-866-488-7386, text START to 678678, or visit thetrevorproject.org.
- NAMI: Monday – Friday, 10 AM – 10 PM Eastern. Call 800-950-6264, text NAMI to 62640, email he******@**mi.org.
- Mobile Crisis (0-24 Year Olds): 24/7 on-site crisis stabilization for ages 0-24 in Orange, Osceola, or Seminole counties. 407-839-HELP.
- More Information & General Resources
- What to Do When Someone Shares They’re Struggling. Learn what to do if someone tells you they’re having thoughts of suicide.
- Know the Signs. Know the Warnings. Learn behaviors and common signs of mental health concerns in adults and adolescents.
- For Teens & Young Adults – Seize the Awkward. Resources to help young people have conversations about their mental health with adults and each other.
- On-Going Support
- St. Luke’s Community Counseling Center – As always, the licensed mental health counselors at our counseling center see children, youth, and adults who need support on their journey.
Joshua L. Stanley, EdD, LMHC, NCC, ACS (he/him)
SLUMC Director of Community Mental Health & Well-being
